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Shea Moisture Baby! With this being my third baby I understand that babies tend to have sensitive skin and we as parents have to be careful when it comes to allergic reactions. I became more cautious after my first when we found out that she is allergic to peanuts. Nyleh was about 4 maybe 5 weeks old when she developed bumps on her face which then spread on her body. As I noticed the “rash” spreading I began to think, is this heat a heat rash or baby acne? Not once did I think eczema, so after doing my research I began to use raw organic coconut oil. The coconut oil seemed to work but not fast enough, so I then used breast milk. The breast milk cleared up the bumps on her forehead which seemed like over night.

Unfortunately the “rash” returned and with her being so young I decided to take her to the doctor, rewinding a little bit. Nyleh started to become really irritable to the point where we didn’t know what was wrong and that isn’t like her at all which is another reason why I took her to the doctor. With all said and done we found out the she has eczema. We were advised to use Cetaphil (a very good lotion) and to basically bathe her with nothing LOL…

I came across this wash and shampoo at Target, what sold me was how it is all natural. After I bought it I wasn’t sure what the ingredients were so I looked them up Myrrh is a sap like substance that comes from a tree called Commiphora Myrrha which is related to Frankeincnse. This essential oil is commonly used for a number of benefits but in this case it is used for relaxation.

What this is used can be compared to a night time lavender baby shampoo just all natural. I  have noticed that it soothes Nyleh after bath time and the biggest benefit is I can use it and don’t have to worry about her eczema flaring up. In actuality I seen an improvement when I switched from a popular lavender baby wash, her skin wasn’t so dry and her bumps stayed away.

All and all I recommend this baby shampoo for your precious baby, It smells good and it lather so well a little definitely goes a long way. Oh and we can’t forget, this does not bother their eyes it is most definitely tear free!

If your baby suffers from eczema this is what works for us:

Cetaphil Lotion- 2-3 times a day

Shea Moisture baby- Every other day at bath time

Wash clothes in Dreft or non scented detergent on a two rinse cycle.

 

Thank you for reading, its all L<3VE

Remember to relax your mind and open your heart ❤

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Yes! you read it correctly the success of failure, you may ask “how can someone be successful at failing?” Being a mother of  three adding to that a mother of a new baby as well is heartwarming and at times overwhelming. As a mother we are scared to fail, we are scared to let our kids down and have them think we aren’t the best mother. This question comes to mind, How can we be a failure to our kids if all they know is what mommy and daddy does?

Last weekend we got invited to a birthday party and as excited as we all were little did I know everything that could have happened was going to happen. My husband (Brandon) and I woke up pretty early to have some adult time since we have to get in where we fit in around here LOL, it was about 5 am. Well once we were up we were up! We cooked breakfast together for the family and knew the day was going to be a good day WELL not so much haaha. 10 am rolled around and we ended up falling asleep. Once we woke up we realized what time it was and started to get dressed(rushing of course). Brandon was supposed to get a haircut and I still hadn’t gotten a gift. Once I dropped Brandon off I went to wal mart and that is where it began. I realized earlier I had forgot the wipes,, it was no big deal because wal mart has those. I was all finished, ready to check out and Nyleh has a blow out (extreme poop that leaks through the diaper and clothes) I then realized I forgot a change of clothes once I looked in the diaper bag.  I had to walk all the way to the back of the store grab an outfit and go.

Once everything was paid for I got the the car and began to change Nyleh when I realized I forgot to buy wipes. In a panic I was like what do I do now? It was hot I was sweating, the kids were asking me a million questions(only 3 but it felt like a million) and suddenly a light bulb went off.  I remembered that I had put some wipes in the wipe case that came with her diaper bag. Although they were almost dried out they worked! We made it to the party late but at least we made it.

I shared the story with you all because in the midst of all of that my children didn’t see me any different they still seen me as the mommy they love. I was the one who felt bad for forgetting clothes and wipes.

It is important to learn from a failure, we will all fail at something and at that moment when you realized you have failed is when you should get the strength and courage to try again. A failure is only an attempt to perfection.

As a mother I know I will have many failures and many attempts but that only gives me the drive to continue on each day, if one day didn’t work out then try again the next day. We have 24 hours in a day to do something, once that 24 hours is up we have another 24 hours to try again.

Thanks for reading!

Remember to relax your mind and open your heart ❤

Living in the now!

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It has been 4 weeks since our little baby has been born. She is so beautiful and get’s all the attention now a days. Breaking into reality how is life now? Of course life is full of happiness, smiles, and sleepless nights. Although I have two other children I do not remember some of the postpartum things that happen like hot flashes. Oh my goodness sometimes at night I would wake up drenched in sweat and then some nights I would have chills and even the three blankets that were on me didn’t keep me warm, I would be shivering like I was wearing a bathing suit in Antarctica. People seem to not talk about what happens after birth and I wasn’t interested in what wasn’t happening to me. One morning when my husband left to drop the kids off at school I was so cold and in pain I turned the heater on like 85 so when he came home he was like why is it so hot in here! Apparently your hormones are changing and your body sweats to release all of the excess fluid you have stored from being pregnant. Interesting isn’t it?

Everything that my body has gone through amazes me and I wouldn’t change any of it for the world, why because it is all temporary. Pain doesn’t last long, excess weight doesn’t stay on forever and being sleep deprived will soon end. Something that people don’t talk about is the amount of stress that is placed on a mother regardless if she has help. Sleepless nights can get the best of you and cause anxiety, depression, stress, and an overwhelming feeling. Thankfully I did not fall into depression, I overcame getting close. I had to have a conversation with God and myself, I told myself that you can not keep your emotions bottled in and smile like nothing is wrong. I kept telling myself that I am fine and realized that maybe I am not “fine” when I found myself crying for no reason. I hadn’t been anywhere not even to the front door. I became consumed with being a new mom again and getting rest that I didn’t pay attention to anything else other than our newborn baby.

When I realized I was allowing myself to fall I prayed and asked God for strength. The next day I got dressed like I was going somewhere(although I wasn’t) and stepped outside for some fresh air while my kids rode their bikes. Let me tell you, fresh air and sunlight does wonders to emotions. I had to find a way to release my emotions because when I kept them in I found myself more irritable and sometimes angry. I told myself to cry, and when I tell you that it felt so much better than keeping everything in. You may be surprised at what crying and letting things out can do. I encourage anyone, not just new moms to find that outlet it will do you nothing but good. Other than realizing how to deal with my emotions I have also learned to be patient. I am used to just going, a newborn will get the best out of you when it comes to time. I was used to rushing because I was always behind with time I am now sufficient with time so that way I won’t have to rush. So many things can happen like a blow out diaper or an instant need to breastfeed you just never know now a days. I have learned there is no need to stress just take a deep breathe, nothing is going to come out perfect and if something goes wrong try again the next day.  I usually am not open about my life but this is reality and I told myself when I wrote this blog that I would speak the truth because I could help someone else.

 

Thank you, hopefully you enjoyed reading just as much as I enjoyed sharing.

Don’t forget to open up your heart and relax your mind.

Welcoming Nyleh Blyss

Finding out we were expecting another baby was a bit of a surprise but nevertheless we went in with open arms. 39 weeks of my pregnancy was actually good for the most part, no complications and exactly what is expected during a pregnancy. Once reality hit that we were having another baby I prayed to God that this pregnancy be smooth, that my cravings weren’t outrageous, and that I was able to have a safe natural birth ( no epidural). God definitely answered my prayers, I craved fruit my whole pregnancy and I loved drinking water so much my husband called me a camel. The natural birth part was a blessing that I thought I prepared for. The thought about hiring a Doula came about, but once we looked at the pricing we figured we could do without. I watched a ton of you tube videos and read so many blogs and information on informative websites I figured I had this natural birth thing in the bag.

When I got closer to my due date Braxton Hicks contractions started(practice contractions) eventually actual contractions came. I used inconsistent contractions as practice and would breathe through them with deep breathes as if I was in actual labor. April 3rd I woke up at 3 am and felt slightly strong contractions so I started to time them, they were 10 min a part and consistent. Due to the contractions being consistent I went and soaked in the tub and waited for them to become closer together. By 6:30 am it was time to wake our kids up, the contractions were still consistent just not strong so we continued with our normal daily routine. My husband took the kids to school and he stayed home from work. By 3 pm the contractions were still consistent just not close together, they jumped from 5 min a part to 10 min a part back down to 5 min a part. Once we dropped our kids off to be taken care of we headed to the hospital. As we arrived we were checked in and once I got settled they checked my cervix, I was only 3 cm. dilated. Eventually I got to 4 cm. (or so we thought ) so they decided to admit me. With tons of walking, squatting, dancing, and sitting on a yoga ball the contractions became further a part. By 5 am my doctor came in and said “we are going to break your water and start pitocin (nooooooo, the worst)”. I almost refused but he was like do you want to go home or have a baby, of course I chose a baby with an epidural to follow since pitocin makes your contractions like ten times worst than regular contractions. Once my doctor checked me he said “I’m not doing this you’re only 2 cm”, the look on me and my husbands face was priceless. He was upset because we were told I was 4 cm and then the doctor says that I am 2 cm. This happened on a Monday, I had an appointment that Thursday. He relayed to me that the nurses stretched my cervix to 4 cm. what he wanted was to check me and be at 4 cm. He did say I wouldn’t make it to my next appointment which was the following Thursday.

That weekend I was so ready to have her, I was tired and in pain and felt like I couldn’t go any longer. I went to a bachelorette party and decided to try and dance her out ( I paid for it that night). Sunday morning contractions started up again and they seemed to be consistent, they were 5 to 6 min a part. Eventually that afternoon the contractions once again stopped. I decided to try some “natural” techniques to speed up the labor process. I went to five stores looking for Raspberry Leaf Tea, finally I found the tea after I called the store to make sure it was correct (organic, pure). Thinking the tea would work immediately like some other pregnant women said, my husband went and gassed the vehicle up. We got the kids bags together and made sure we had everything and nope, nothing. The tea did not work for me just like every other home remedy I tried. I gave up and said you know what she is going to come when she is ready to come despite my anxiety and anticipation on meeting her, I just need  to have patience and wait. The next morning which was a Monday I woke up to some strong pain and ignored it because I refused to believe they were contractions, but they kept coming. I got in the tub to see if they would subside and nope they kept coming. I timed them and they were exactly 10 min a part on the dot, eventually they got down to 5 min a part. I noticed they were getting slightly stronger so I stopped timing them and realized this just might be it. My husband called off once again and took the kids to school. We packed our bags and cleaned the house to kill time just to make sure this was really it this time. As we were driving to the hospital they were getting stronger and that’s when I knew this was it.

When we arrived at the hospital the contractions became 2 min a part. Once we got to labor and delivery they checked me in and plugged me up to the monitors, for some reason Nyleh’s heart rate started to become really high. Due to her heartbeat being so high I was given fluids because it was possible that I was dehydrated, still her heart rate was too high. The next thing they tried was some oxygen, which she liked once I laid on my side with the oxygen. Once again the contractions slowed down, when my doctor came in to check on me he said that my cervix wasn’t dilated at 4 cm like I was told and it still was at 2 cm. The reason why my cervix wasn’t dilating was because she wasn’t in the birth canal pushing on my cervix to make it dilate although my contractions were consistent.

My doctor decided to admit me to monitor Nyleh’s heart rate, if her heart rate didn’t stay down I was going to have to have a c-section. As soon as he told me that I prayed and knew God would not allow that to happen. By 4:30 am a pill was inserted into my cervix to help me dilate( this is where all the action happens). By 5:00 am I woke up with strong contractions plus I had to use the bathroom, I paged my nurse to hurry up because I could NOT hold it. The pill I was given you have to lay down for two hours before you can get up to let the pill dissolve, I guess it was okay to get up because it seemed to have started working. My nurse came in and said I could get up once my blood pressure cuff had checked my pressure which was at 5:30 am. I was watching the clock because the contractions were strong and trying to hold your urine and stool was hard. As soon as my blood pressure was taken I snatched those cords off and rushed to the bathroom. While I was on the toilet having contractions I was talking to myself and God, I told God  that I couldn’t do it anymore and that I know I prayed to you for strength to deliver without an epidural but I just can’t do this, this hurts too much. Then I said to myself I don’t care what anyone has to say I am getting an epidural, oh well I am not dealing with this pain. The nurse comes back in to check on me and says, “Are you alright? I have to check your cervix.” I said, “Okay, but I want an epidural.” Me thinking my husband is asleep he busts out with, “Nope do not give her an epidural!” ( I told him whatever I say, do NOT let me get an epidural) I looked back at him and said, “They don’t care what you say, they’re going to listen to me, uhmm please get me an epidural this hurts to much.” The nurse knew I wanted to go natural according to my birth plan so she was like, “Are you sure? just take deep breathes through the contractions.” I yelled, “Yes! I want an epidural.” She checks my cervix and I am 5 cm dilated, I said “making progress!”

Well the Anesthesiologist wasn’t available until 7:00 am and at the time it was 6:30 am so she went and called the on call doctor to see if I can have one and he told her “Give that lady what she wants.”  I said, “Thank you Jesus!” 7:00  am could get here fast enough, as I was talking to the nurse I said, “Can you make sure I am first?” she said, “Sure as long as he doesn’t have any scheduled surgeries.” I said, “Oh he won’t.” By 6:40 am the contractions are hitting so hard I’m making all kinds of crazy noises, my husband said I sounded like a steam boat. He was trying to motivate me by saying things but I told him to “Be quiet before I put you out!” Within that time frame A huge contraction came and something went bloop, it was my water. I said, “Oh my gosh my water just broke!” Whoever said when your water breaks a little bit of water comes out, well when mine broke it was like a big gush of water and it just kept flowing. But anyway my husband rushed and got the nurse, by that time my body started pushing and I’m telling the nurse “I have to push.” The nurse told me she didn’t mind catching a baby but she would prefer if I waited for the doctor. The same nurse tells my husband to blow in my face to keep me from pushing, and for some reason I still asked for an epidural. The nurse asked me if my other two births were quick, I said I don’t know I had an epidural with them.

A big rush, my doctor rushes in with an entourage of nurses. They ask me if the student nurse can come in and I said NO! ( bad timing on their part) My doctor said okay I need to check you, I was at 10 cm. He says, “Okay it’s time to push” ( those words sounded like sweet music to my ears) My doctor tells me to scoot down to get my legs on the stir ups and I tell him no I don’t want to. He says, ” Do you want to have a baby or not, If so I need you on these stir ups.” So I scooted down and a contraction came so I started screaming, my doctor then comes close to my face and says, “Oh no! No we are not about to do this. All that screaming needs to be directed towards pushing.” I pushed one time and her head was out and then I yelled, “I can’t do this anymore!” My doctor said sweetie her head is out, one more push and you are done.” So another contraction came and I pushed and she came out, all the pain and pressure went away and I was relieved. Nyleh Blyss was born at 6:59 am. Obviously I didn’t make it for an epidural she came one minute before. Ha Ha God has an interesting way of doing things. He gave me the strength even when I was in doubt. He get’s all the glory!

I shared my story because I wanted to share reality. Even when you feel like giving up push try to push through! I watched so many natural births and every single woman was so calm, they pushed the baby right out and it was just beautiful. I don’t want to discourage any mothers who want to go all natural or plan on going all natural. It is not pain free it does hurt a whole lot, watching Youtube videos for me put me in a mind set of serenity when that was not how it went.  I was fascinated with how much pain my body endured and I am so glad that I didn’t get an epidural. I went through with my original plan and I thank God for the strength. Would I do it again with no epidural? I sure would. (although this shop is closed) The way you feel afterwards is much better, I was able to walk right away. I felt different, I was not groggy like I was from an epidural with my previous births.